Scales to Play Over D#m9
Every chord is a subset of several scales: any scale that contains all of a chord's tones fits over it. Pick a chord to see the matching scales from its own root, the major keys the chord belongs to, and full fretboard diagrams for every scale on guitar.
A D#m9 chord contains the notes D# – E# – F# – A# – C#. Any scale that includes every one of those 5 tones fits over it — from the root D#, that means D# Natural Minor, D# Dorian and D# Dorian Bebop. They differ only in the notes between the chord tones, and that is where each scale gets its color.
D#m9 is also diatonic to 2 major keys: Db major (relative minor Bbm), F# major (relative minor D#m). In a song from one of those keys you can also solo with the key's own major scale or its relative minor pentatonic across the whole progression, not just this chord.